How to Make 2018 Your Best Year Yet
I’m currently writing this blog post full of determination and motivation for the year ahead. Although it shouldn’t take a new year to make you realise you need to change your ways, it’s always good to use it as an excuse to have a fresh new start and wave goodbye to any negativity that the previous year brought to your life.
2018 is your year. You can make anything happen.
I’m not going to reflect too much on 2017 other than to say it was the most difficult year and although it ended on an absolute high travelling Asia, it’s a year I’m glad to put behind me. I waved goodbye to 2017 and hello to 2018 on a beach in Bali, gazing up at the fireworks. It was by far the best new year’s eve I’ve ever had and I hope it indicates what the rest of the year has in store.
These aren’t exactly your typical ‘new year’s resolutions’ that I’m going to share with you as to be honest, I make the same new year’s resolutions every single year and fail miserably…instead these are my best tips for ensuring that 2018 will be your best year yet.
Focus on your goals. I am such an ambitious person but sometimes I can be all talk and no action. This is something that really annoys me about myself and something that I am 100% going to change. Whatever your goals may be, whether it’s to do with your career and bagging that dream job or putting a deposit down on a house you’ve been lusting after, there’s no better time than the present to create a plan and start seriously working towards your goal with the intention of reaching it by the end of the year. Trust me, they’ll be no better feeling than sitting there on 31st December 2018 having achieved exactly what you wanted and knowing that all your hard work was worth it. And remember, if someone tells you you can’t, you most definitely CAN. Prove them wrong.
Get out of your comfort zone. Yep, you’ve heard it all before but seriously, nothing good ever comes from comfort zones. Stepping outside your comfort zone can often feel like the most difficult and daunting thing ever but it can also lead to the most incredible opportunities and be so rewarding. Next time you feel like backing out of an event that deep down you’d love to attend or you’re about to stop yourself from shouting up in a meeting to share what could be amazing ideas, sit and think twice. Push yourself. It’ll get easier every time you do it. If you always stay in your comfort zone, nothing will change. YOU have to be the person who creates the change and you’ll definitely thank yourself for it.
Rid yourself of negative energy. When you surround yourself with people who support you, who motivate you and who are genuinely happy at your successes in life, it makes you feel good and positive so it’s no surprise that when you’re surrounded by people who don’t clap when you win, who only get in touch when they need something from you or who seem happy at your misfortunes, you’re ultimately going to feel like crap. These are the people you need to distance yourself from for your own good. These are the people that make you feel anxious. These are the people you worry are bitching about you behind your back. Life is too short for all that. Distance yourself. True friends want the best for you, they want to see you happy and when you’re not, they’ll offer a shoulder for you to cry on. Make sure you give it back though. Always be a good friend. Ask about people’s lives and don’t get too caught up in your own that you don’t notice someone else is struggling.
Take care of yourself. You only get one body. Look after it. Eating well and working out makes such a big difference to your mental health. I find that if I eat badly and don’t exercise, I not only lack energy but I also feel so down mentally yet if I eat well and work out, my mood lifts so much. Even if I’m feeling down about something stupid, I’ll do a workout and my mind will feel clearer and ultimately I’ll feel happier. I’m not saying you need to be healthy all the time because I for one can certify that chocolate and wine can also lift your mood! But in general, try and take care of your body, eat well the majority of the time and fit in workouts when you can to release those endorphins and keep your happy levels up. Never be too hard on yourself though. Beating yourself up is a recipe for disaster. If you don’t exercise for a while, it’s fine. Slowly get back into it. If you have 5 cheat days in a row, it’s also fine. Try make it 4 next time!
Put down your phone. As a generation, we spend a lot of time on our phones and as a blogger I can’t really escape social media. However, as much as I love scrolling through and discovering new places, clothes I want to buy and makeup I need in my life, I also absolutely hate it. Social media allows us to access things we don’t always want to see, it allows us to compare ourselves with people who depict perfect lives and sometimes, it stops us from fully appreciating and living in the moment. It can be good for us to put our phones down occasionally and take a break from the screen, whether it’s for a few hours or a full day, whatever helps you switch off and relax. I’m currently travelling and I purposely chose not to purchase a local sim card so I wouldn’t have access to the internet 24 hours a day and instead, only when there’s wifi available and even then, I sometimes (although rarely I’ll admit…) choose not to go on as I find it can occasionally have a negative effect on my mood and it’s nice to switch off. Also, unfollow those people who you compare yourself to and who make you feel inadequate but do remember, people only share their highlights on social media and their perfect pictures do not always represent a perfect life.
Always remember, you don’t get a re-run. You just get one shot at this life thing so all the times you sit there moping around feeling miserable are moments of your life you can’t ever get back. When you feel like hiding under a duvet for the remainder of 2018, ask yourself ‘does this problem really matter?’ and ‘will I care about this in a years time?’ More often than not, it will be a ‘no’. Obviously, sometimes life can be cruel and it throws things at us that seriously test us and it’s natural to be upset and angry over things that matter but there’s also that unnecessary stuff that doesn’t deserve a place in your mind. Also, cherish those moments with grandparents if you’re lucky to still have them and parents, siblings and friends because when 31st December 2018 does come round (and it will be quick I can assure you), it’ll be those little moments with the ones you love that you’ll remember the most and wish you could re-live.
Wishing you ALL the best for 2018. Dream big, stay positive, look after yourself and make it your best year yet. x